This post is about so much more than mum clothes. But it’s a start.
It’s 4 years since I last really felt like myself. 4 years since I was first pregnant and bulging out of my clothes. 4 years since I stopped wearing work clothes. 4 years since I felt like I could wear things without my first thought being how much will snot/sick show on this? But now my babies are 3 and a half and 1, I’m starting to come out of the other side.
So I decided to go shopping. And I realised I had no idea where to look. For the last 4 years, the only things I’ve really bought for myself are Selfish Mother sweatshirts… I didn’t know what else to get.
This came down to two things:
- I don’t know myself any more: my body shape is still a mystery; my tastes have changed in the last 4 years but I don’t really know what they’ve moved on to; and my lifestyle is new to me, still.
- I don’t know shops anymore. I honestly don’t know where to look.
On top of those things, I was starting to feel a bit of instagram pressure. I follow lots of lovely mums who all look great in their cool clothes with their love their body positive attitude and bright colours and I wasn’t sure if I was meant to be looking like them or me or… Who was I??
Anyway. Cue mid-life crisis. It lasted about 3 days. I tried to shop online. I failed. I tried to make a Pinterest board. I didn’t know what to put on it. I tried to shop in person. I walked around and around and around and just bought a cute outfit for my friend’s new baby. It wasn’t going well.
Then I found this capsule wardrobe planner from Un-fancy and I decided to try and bullet journal my way out of this pickle. So I completed some of the steps:
- Pieces I own and love to wear (hello sweatshirts! hello jeans! hello leather jacket!)
- What’s working for me at the moment (stripes. sweatshirts.)
- Pieces I own and never wear (dresses. big grey cardigan.)
- What’s not working for me at the moment (anything that needs to be dry cleaned. anything I can’t crawl around on the floor in.)
- A little word association of words I wanted to associate with my style (comfortable. modern. practical.)
And I kind of realised I do have a wardrobe and a style I like. I’d just kind of forgotten it and brushed it away. I was looking at websites without any real focus and feeling lost because I didn’t know what I was looking for, but a refreshed look at my wardrobe showed me I don’t have to start from scratch. I probably do have to donate a few things I’ll never wear again, but the bones are there.
It was refreshing and exciting and gave me a lot more clarity when I thought again about buying. I even successfully managed to buy a denim skirt (which looks great with my sweatshirts).
It’s nice to be feeling a bit more like me again, and even nicer to know I was actually there all along.